Keepers of the Flame

candles-141892_640It is possible for others to minimize your relationship with writing especially if they don’t share your gift. It’s devastating when someone who says they care about you,  attempts to invalidate your passion. Quite often, they’re disinterested or—surprise, surprise—jealous of your ability, tenacity and determination to pursue your dream.
Probably every writer has endured cutting remarks about their writing whether they wrote longhand, typed or had the newest computer set up on the market.

Learning to recognize who isn’t interested in your writing will save you many hours of pain and suffering. Luckily, people in this category can be spotted easily. Below you can view some common remarks.

  • What makes you think you’re a writer?
  • Have you ever been published?
  • Have you ever been paid?
  • Your writing is just a hobby.
  • What makes you think anyone wants to hear what you have to say?  
  • You’re still working on that same book?

One extremely close relative refused to encourage my writing. He wouldn’t read it or acknowledge it in any way. When the people we’re closest to can’t or won’t support us, it’s disheartening.  Even worse, when they make you feel guilty for pursuing your craft, disparage your efforts or try to sabotage them. It goes without say that these are not people with whom you share your work or your victories. Spare yourself feeling of discouragement. You don’t have to ditch them as friends (or relatives) but they’re not part of your tribe.candle-1818703_640

Your tribe, your clan, crew or peeps, are thrilled for you. They cheer you on. They want to see what you’ve written lately, or posted or published. They are often writers themselves but certainly, believe in pursuing dreams and passions. Develop a circle of friends with whom you can share your triumphs. When you get a book contract,  your first publication in a glossy magazine published in a national, when you complete your book. These are all celebratory moments. Share them with people who will recognize that and make them special.

Remember that not all people share our enthusiasm, but their remarks don’t make you any less a writer. It’s disappointing and it says more about them than you. This is one of the reasons it’s so important to find like- minded people.

I can’t imagine a life without writing. If you don’t have a cheerleader in your corner, comment below. I will cheer you on. If you’re writing a blog, share the link, I will follow and encourage you. If this is your dream, guard it like a candle flame. Too many people are willing to be the wind and blow it out for you. And if someone tries to put out your fire, even if you’re barely a smoking ember, come back here and let your passion be reignited. No one on this earth will ever see or say things the way you do. Keep on writing. Never ever give up. Your voice is unique. Your story is important.

Please let me hear from you if you! I’m listening.


4 Comments Add yours

  1. Here, here! Wise words. The same goes for music. Thanks for your inspiring post.


    1. JEOcean says:

      You are welcome! I agree with you regarding music and all creatives.


  2. The Great and Wonderful Gnu says:

    Likely the most important piece of advice anyone can get, whether or not they’re a writer. Never let anyone extinguish your flame! Love, the dabbler


    1. JEOcean says:

      You are of course correct! It’s so important to cherish and nurture dreams. Thanks for your comment and the laugh!


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