Do you have the perspective that we don’t always get what we want in this life and that’s just the way it is? What if there’s really more to it than that? I seem to find a lot more silver linings these days. Maybe because I’m always watching for them.

While reading Dean Graziosi’s book, Millionaire Success Habits, I came across this gem:

“Confidence comes from courage. Life doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us.”

Which echoes the last half of this verse in Romiyim, “…if God is for us, who can be against us?” Can you imagine God for us? Life happens for us. I tried letting the very idea sink in. what happens if I wear this perspective for even part of my day? Does it change anything for me?

Yes, I’d start looking for the ways that it’s true. If God is for me, what does that look like in my dad to day?
I’ve wanted plenty of things that I didn’t get when I prayed for them. I learned God is not some holy gumball machine. Put in a coupla prayers and out pops your request just as you expected it. His ways are higher than my ways. Can you imagine a doctor getting patients ahead of his training and education? A pilot who hasn’t passed flight school?

I might think I know what I need, but the truth is My Maker knows best. In hindsight I saw that sometimes I wasn’t ready for the answer He was going to deliver.

Or maybe you’ve tried something new that didn’t work out like you thought. Did you quit or keep going? To me, any new venture is like a baby learning to walk. The baby isn’t born cursing the fact that he cannot walk. He has to strengthen muscles and find balance before he gets to that liberating day. So why do do I think that when I try something for the first time that I can skip the learning curve?

• What if you were easier on yourself?
• Instead of expecting to succeed the first time, your attitude might be, no matter how long this takes, I will learn it because it’s a valuable life skill.
• What if you invested in learning the thing you’ve struggled with on your own? Hire a tutor or a mentor to expedite your progress.

When I moved from a less complicated platform to this one, I paid a very knowledgeable woman to walked me through the set-up. She explained banners and menus and clouds. And now, like that baby, I walk without much effort.

What circumstances have been challenging to you lately? Can you see how it happened for you? Are you able to see how a set back was for your best? Has a delay ever turned out to be a blessing in disguise?

Whatever you’re going through, the way you come through it and the knowledge you gain is developing character, experience, and making you a more resilient being. Sooner or later you’ll run into someone who needs to know exactly how you endured.

I once lived in an abusive relationship with a person who nearly succeeded in shutting down my dreams. While on survival mode, all I wanted to do was get through a day. I couldn’t imagine that this experience would help anyone. bring something of value to the marketplace. I eventually When it was over, I began building on my strengths.

I almost didn’t finish my first fiction book. A year later, surrounded by supportive writers, I completed Painting the Rain, five years after I’d started. Soon after that, I met a woman who had been through a very similar experience, and helped her completing her memoir.

We can’t know how our life events will present those silver linings. I like a certain amount of sameness and predictability. But life happens for us so we can become better versions of ourselves, more fulfilled in our lives, more enriched through experiences and sharing our truth and lessons with others.

I’d love to hear from you. What lesson did you learn from your most difficult experience? How did it affect you moving forward? Thanks again for stopping by. I appreciate you! See you next time.