How is your New Year starting out? Are you making progress on your goals? Whether you’re succeeding or failing, what is your self-talk? Self-talk is what you say to yourself about yourself. The inner dialog that you believe about you.
People can be kind and loving toward others, but when it comes to themselves, not so much. You’ve probably heard a few of your close friends or even relatives call themselves by negative names: dummy, bonehead, dingaling and much worse.
One of my favorite quotes of late is this: “If God doesn’t say it about me, why would I say it about myself?” by respected Pastor of Bethel Church, Redding California, Bill Johnson. Whatever you may think of God, He’s only saying good things about you and me. So why aren’t we all saying good things about ourselves?
Recently, someone shared that what we say activates the spiritual realm to aid us in bringing those words to life. If you say negative things, the negative things happen. If you say positive things, positive things happen.
Have you considered positive affirmations? Years ago, I used to say them, read them and ponder them, but then I fell away from the habit. Because I’ve recently been reminded of their power, I’ve picked it back up again. You might feel silly at first, saying aloud, I am outrageously successful, or I always meet my goals. But when it starts happening, you’ll be dreaming up new ones pretty quickly.
So much of how our life is going depends on our attitude and ability to cast our circumstances in a positive light. Our ability to see the good that can come out of a situation or a lesson we might never have learned otherwise.
Words that steal
When we have negative self-talk, we are robbing ourselves. Some of us may not even realize they have self-talk, but if you pause, you can hear it. When you’re getting ready to do something you’ve never done what do you hear?
- Why bother? It won’t turn out the way you want.
- What makes you think you can do that?
- You’re not qualified to do that.
- Life doesn’t turn out well for people like you.
I’ve known far too many people that said negative things over and over until it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Maybe you’ve heard some of these:
- I never have enough money… and they’re always broke,
- I am sick and tired… and they always are.
- Nothing ever goes right for me…
- I always get sick on my days off…
- I can’t keep a job…
- Any sentence that starts with “I always” and “I never” if it ends negatively.
What this means for you
What would happen if you just started saying good things about yourself? Just pick something easy that you can start doing today. Maybe you’re trying to improve your health. You might say, I really enjoy exercise. I like eating food that makes me feel good about myself.
If you’re trying to change jobs, or want to start a new business, I’m the kind of person people want to hire. I am a successful business owner.
It may not fill your head with all the tools you need that moment, but you will begin seeing opportunities lining up. You’ll notice classes being offered in your field of interest, or a mentor appears, or maybe you notice a position opening on a job board.
If you’re going to make something happen with your words, wouldn’t you want to make it something grand? It doesn’t have to be true today to come true in the future.
- I always have too much money. (Why not?)
- I am healthy and energized.
- Everything I apply myself to works out for me.
- I never get sick.
How about this one: I am always in the right place at the right time.
What if you could design your own future by the words you choose? What would you be saying about yourself?
You can use any of these affirmations or choose one of your own, but I challenge you to try this for just 30 – 60 days. I dare you. Because once you start seeing evidence of the power of words, it can change your whole life.
Will you do me a favor? If you take the challenge, will you comment and let us know? I would love to hear how it worked out for you.